Being a parent is a full-time job, but taking care of a newborn baby is draining, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally, too. And when you’re that exhausted, being able to lean on your partner is more important than ever, so when one mother found herself in need of more support from her husband, she let him know. BloggerCeleste Yvonnepoured her heart out in an open letter to her husband asking for more help with their young kids and it’s gone viral for showing what it’s like to feel like you’re the one who has to do it all.
In the letter, Celeste begins simply stating, “I. Need. More. Help.”
- She gets real about being sleep-deprived and worn out and needing more help from her husband.
- She writes that she sees them falling into the traditional mother-father roles their own parents had growing up and that she blames herself for part of that because she “set the precedent” that she can do it all herself.
- And she points out that she sees friends and other moms “doing it all, and doing it well,” and she questions why she can’t manage as well.
“Part of me feels like a failure for even asking,” Celeste writes, adding that her husband does help and is an “amazing father.” But she explains that she’s running on five hours of sleep and needs help. She gets specific about what she needs, including that she needs to hear him say he’s grateful for everything she does. She warns that she “will break” if she keeps up at the pace she’s been on and reminds him that he needs her, too.
- After her letter went viral, people wanted to know if the letter worked, and Celeste is happy to share that it did. She says the communication was an eye-opener for her husband, who then shared his concerns as a dad and helped her see what he was feeling and she says “I’m so grateful for it.”